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I am new to this forum. I am looking for some input for other golfers.
I have a friend who I have golfed with for years on a regular basis. I am a fairly good golfer carrying a 4 handicap. He is a "wanna be" 4 handi, but plays more to a 18. In the past he has had outbursts and anger on the course. We can be playing with two strangers and he will duff a shot and start yelling, cussing and throwing clubs. I find it very embarassing.
He has acted the same when we play alone, but lately it has gotten worse. I have used his outbursts to help train myself to become focused only on what I am doing and on my shot. He can be jumping up and down, kicking the cart and I can block him out to the point that I can still focus on making my birdie putt. Now he has started to talk during my backswing, telling me all the reasons why he should have made the putt he just missed while I am over my putt and the most irratating of all, he talks on his cell phone all of the time making everyone wait on him. His phone can ring two or three times on every hole! He has even started giving me golf tips or telling me what is wrong with my swing if I hit one errant shot!
The final straw is that the last three time we have played, he is always late to the course and calls me (from his cell phone) to pay his greens fee and the promises to pay me back on the course. He now owes me for three rounds. The last time he said he thought that he had cash but he didn't, "I'll get you next time" he says. He then proceeds to play so poorly that he regrets even coming out to play and then usually storms off after the round without a word about the money he owes me. The last round, I paid and he became so distraught on the course and made so many outbursts in front of two strangers, that I left after 12 holes and took him with me. I was then out my greens fee and his and he ruined!
Today my phone rings and he wants to know if I want to get out play today. I told him no. I didn't give him a reason, but I think he knows.
I could understand his actions if he were a really good golfer, or at one time been a really good golfer. But when you think you should be shooting par and you never have and you never practice, what can you expect? There is no enjoyment of the game for him. I enjoy the time I am out there. I enjoy the escape from my every day routine. He is even honest with himself when he does play the game. He can slice on into the trees, tee up another ball and then proceed to make a bogey, but says to put him down for a par. He will then argue with you that he did par it and the first shot did not count.
I know that I should not be playing with him any longer, but how do you break off a "golf relationship" without damaging the friendship? That is where I am right now and that is what I need help with.
I am playing golf today. Without him and I am going to enjoy every bogey, par and birdie!
Thanks for your input!
webdawg
I have a friend who I have golfed with for years on a regular basis. I am a fairly good golfer carrying a 4 handicap. He is a "wanna be" 4 handi, but plays more to a 18. In the past he has had outbursts and anger on the course. We can be playing with two strangers and he will duff a shot and start yelling, cussing and throwing clubs. I find it very embarassing.
He has acted the same when we play alone, but lately it has gotten worse. I have used his outbursts to help train myself to become focused only on what I am doing and on my shot. He can be jumping up and down, kicking the cart and I can block him out to the point that I can still focus on making my birdie putt. Now he has started to talk during my backswing, telling me all the reasons why he should have made the putt he just missed while I am over my putt and the most irratating of all, he talks on his cell phone all of the time making everyone wait on him. His phone can ring two or three times on every hole! He has even started giving me golf tips or telling me what is wrong with my swing if I hit one errant shot!
The final straw is that the last three time we have played, he is always late to the course and calls me (from his cell phone) to pay his greens fee and the promises to pay me back on the course. He now owes me for three rounds. The last time he said he thought that he had cash but he didn't, "I'll get you next time" he says. He then proceeds to play so poorly that he regrets even coming out to play and then usually storms off after the round without a word about the money he owes me. The last round, I paid and he became so distraught on the course and made so many outbursts in front of two strangers, that I left after 12 holes and took him with me. I was then out my greens fee and his and he ruined!
Today my phone rings and he wants to know if I want to get out play today. I told him no. I didn't give him a reason, but I think he knows.
I could understand his actions if he were a really good golfer, or at one time been a really good golfer. But when you think you should be shooting par and you never have and you never practice, what can you expect? There is no enjoyment of the game for him. I enjoy the time I am out there. I enjoy the escape from my every day routine. He is even honest with himself when he does play the game. He can slice on into the trees, tee up another ball and then proceed to make a bogey, but says to put him down for a par. He will then argue with you that he did par it and the first shot did not count.
I know that I should not be playing with him any longer, but how do you break off a "golf relationship" without damaging the friendship? That is where I am right now and that is what I need help with.
I am playing golf today. Without him and I am going to enjoy every bogey, par and birdie!
Thanks for your input!
webdawg