Same with me, i dont go as close as the womens tee but not as far as the real one. Gotta work on that drive before i step my game up to that level but i think in time i will be able to hit from the farthest one.
I'm not ashamed to admit it either, I use the woman's tee.
It is hard for me to hit TO the woman's tee from the longest tee, so why play it? I will take more time and delay games for players behind me, it would be rude to do this. When I get better, maybe I will move back.
I just can't justify cheating myself by hitting off anything but the back tee. Sure, I would probably have a bit more fun if it wasn't so hard to get my ball down the fairway, but it just wouldn't feel right to me.
A buddy told me about a tournament at his club that is played over 2 days. Each day, they mix up the tees, so each day there will be 6 holes each day played from each of the 3 tees they have. The one thing they avoid is putting any of the par 3 holes all the way back on the championship tees. Apparently 99% of their members would never reach those holes and there's water to avoid on some. Personally, I think it's a great idea.
Welcome to the forum Surf Monkey. I'll be 65 next month. I find depending which of 3 sets of tees I play, I can play 3 very different golf courses. It's weird, but from the back tees, I get in a lot less trouble. It's arguable whether I score better playing the middle or front tees.